Day… I actually think I messed up yesterday, and now I’ve lost count. That sounds just like me. Let’s just get down to business…
Most people I know (and it’s common in books, films, TV show, etc), wen they have a relationship break up, there’s a lot of animosity between them, and their now, ex. I can understand if infidelity or some form of abuse is involved, that someone would want nothing to do with that ex, but what about those relationships that simply drifted apart?
I’m lucky. I don’t think I’ve ever fallen out with an ex, and am still in contact with some twenty years later, albeit, distant friends via the interwebz.
In books, there’s always that ‘I need to show my ex what s/he is missing’ and I sometime quite enjoy that, but when it’s been overdone, it can be very cliche. Second chance romance are some of my favourite books, and when I was writing The One That Got Away, I loved diving into the dynamics of a couple who already knew each other – sometimes intimately, finding one another again.
The word ‘ex’ doesn’t always need to equate to ‘enemy’, especially if a split isn’t acrimonious. An ex can still be a friend, someone with a shared history, even if you have gone down different paths later in life.
In the comments, I’d love to hear about your relationship with an ex, especially the positive ones.